It got to be different

Read a piece of article about Love , it was quite a compelling piece of reading to begin with.

What makes love such a "deep" experience does not depend upon our knowledge of the other (which may be minimal) but rather what we dig up from the depth of ourselves. The exhilaration that accompanies falling in love is only half the discovery of one’s lover the other half is a (re-)discovery of oneself.

The paradox of a loving relationship is that there is a constant tension between forces of individuation and forces of union. On the one hand, the highest ideals of relationship are ones of joining, merging two souls, communion, and sharing of two lives as one. On the other hand, part of the human condition is to be a separate self, charged with the task of individuation and with the process of maturing into a person who knows her or his own wishes and needs. That these two goals (to one degree or another) exist side by side on a daily basis within all intimate relationships is one explanation for why there is such turmoil in the quest for "love".

What is often misunderstood about romantic love is that it is only a beginning in the spectrum of the development of love, (McKeen, 1996) and in the modern day context it is a
relatively short-lived phenomenon. Though romantic love once had a relatively positive purpose, in the modern day context it is more often a bane than a blessing. Far from the goal of highest aspiration, in which capacity it often resides in the modern media, romantic love is a fleeting and capricious state that is poorly advised as a basis for long-term decisions or commitments.

This is something I have so much trouble coming to terms with, why cant love be good enough to stand against come whatever may. Like a sweet melody , lingering on long after you have listened to it. The precondition being in my case it has to be mutual. What more can a man ask then a long term commitment with someone singular, and what possibilities it holds ! But remember people have different priorities, yeah well, but they have no right to dismiss this possibility.

The article then beacame a bit practical and all that bullshit.. so I stopped reading :)